my mom is dying of stage IV colon cancer, how do I cope?
I’m 18 аnd іn college whісh іѕ stressful οn іt’s οwn. Now, wе јυѕt learned mу mom hаѕ stage IV colon cancer & іt’s terminal. Shе јυѕt hаd surgery tο remove bits οf hеr colon, bυt thе cancer іn hеr liver isn’t curable. Shе′s really depressed аnd hаѕ high anxiety. Shе′s οnlу 49 tοο. I’m ѕο stressed аnd іt’s affecting mу health аnd schoolwork аnd аll. Anу advice? I feel lіkе mу world іѕ falling apart.
I’d get a place of nonexistence from classes, or withdraw if you can still do it without severe financial penalty. Talk to a college administrator. They may have a mercy provision for these things.
Spend as much time with her as you can. Don’t argue. Just make her feel like the most unique person in the world for her time left. You will not regret that investment of time in her happiness. And she will place this earth feeling like she made a difference.
Sweetheart i lost my mother to cervical cancer when i was 12 years ancient i by no means got to know my mother. Im 49years ancient to and had cervical cancer 4yrs. ago and i just refined up with chemo. and rad. for Breast cancer.I had lots of friend support but no family support.I reckon as the other answer said i would try and find away to take a place from school im nearly sure they would know if they don’t so be it you only have one mother spend all the time with her that you can and just let her know you’re there for her and how much you like her.I would cut off both arms if i had that option again excellent luck to you sweetheart i know its very hard but hang in there.
There are support groups for family members of the terminally ill.
The social services dept of the clinic or hospital taking care of your mom may be able to help.
They can give you tips on how to cope as well as help mom & there is no need to tell her you are having distress & seeking help.
As far as school goes, see your advisor & sort out the best solution for you.
One thing is certain & that is no one comes away from the experience unchanged.
Best you can do is be there for her in whatever way you can & let her pass knowing you willl be OK.
She will be more worried about you when its time for her to let go.
It will take a while , but you will get through it if you remember the excellent times.
All the best
hi ssooo sorry pls place school talk to the guidance personnel for a health check place now i would assume its 0-6 mos so spend time with mom make a list of all her wants and needs tell her you like her and thank you and tell her you will be OKAY produce you will , this way she won’t struggle to hang on if your acting frightened , hospice might be able to help your family or a local pastor knowing your eternal destination is very comforting for all
sorry been there done that my mil was dx at 60 died 65 but hers metas to liver and lungs in 5 yrs your moms is quick advanced I”M SO SORRY but GOD is coming up for you to call upon him he gives a peace that surpasses all understanding , cast all your cares upon the LORD for he careth for you, this is hard but life is small and Eternity is forever so talk to a clergy might help all? miracles still happen