last month my fox terrier died of liver cancer. he just turned 14. I feel guilty he died is this normal ?
hе lost 7 lbs іn 6 months, bυt eating well. i feel i ѕhουld hаνе bееn more aware thаt something wаѕ incorrect wіth hіm. thе vet saw nothing incorrect wіth hіm. months later many symptoms appeared аnd hе died οf liver disease.
it is normal.
I felt guilty when my dog died from a tumour on the spleen:there were no symptoms either.
i still dream about him.
He was 11yrs,i felt i should have done something(but what?)
he died 3yrs ago
it is normal 14 is a long time…all is extremely hurt when he or she losses a pet coz u consider them to be a part of family Im sorry for ur loss…but dont blame urself …i had a cat too and we thought she was fine but then sumthin happened to her kidney and she passed a way when she was 6….but u cant blame urself …these things happen and face it u loved him while he was alive rite …i have met people who neglect their dogs and treat them horribly….as for not findin about his illness it isnt ur fault again da vet shld have seen the signs……but whatever happened happened ….may be u shld get a puppy…….dont feel guilty no pet likes to see his master in tears
Oh it’s really normal to feel that way!!
Losing a pet can be just like loosing a family member!!
And you shouldn’t feel terrible!! You probably gave the dog a excellent, pleased life!! =)
no way, you shouldn’t feel quilty at all.
liver desease is pretty much untreatable, and even if you have known before there wasn’t anything much you could do, just keep him on meds, which probably would worsen it. my 12 year ancient dog just died two weeks ago, she had a hernia and we got her surgery and she was too ancient to recover for surgery and we had her in and out of the vet for IV fluid everyday, because she wasn’t eating. and my three days she couldn’t walk and was so full of fluid and medicine im pretty sure it drowned her insides. I felt really terrible and guilty but i grieved for only about two days. i miss her, she was my baby but she was ancient and had a excellent life and now she’s in dog heaven pleased and painless.
just know your dog is not suffering anymore like he was for the last 6 months. he’s pleased now, and he had a long run. 14 years is a excellent age. he lived long and i’m sure pleased. don’t blame yourself, you should be proud you kept him and took care of him all these years. you should be pleased he lived so long.
my cat got hit by a car about 5 months ago, and she was only a year and a half. her death struck me hard, maybe because she was a baby and she didn’t live long. i reckon it is because i thought i would grieve much more for my older dog, but i didn’t. when she died i was kind of at piece, i was glad she wasn’t suffering having to go to the vet everyday so they can poke her and fill her body up with fluids. so it made me more at peace knowing she lived a long life. but my cat’s death was so unbearable. i am being paid choked up as i reckon about her. It made me so sad knowing she got hit by a car, and those stupid people got away, knowing they ran something over and didn’t even stop. I know for sure they knew they ran over something, i was standing a maybe 50 feet away and could hear it, it was so loud. didn’t know what the noise was and went surrounded by the house. that’s when my boyfriend told me to go outside and it turned out that loud noise was my kitty being paid hit. ugh what a dreadful month.
well anyway i hope you stop blaming yourself, because none of this is your fault. here’s a poem i reckon you should read.
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Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to a name here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our unique friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and ancient are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are pleased and content, except for one small thing; they each miss a name very unique to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His keen body quivers. Suddenly he starts to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him nearer and nearer.
You have been blemished, and when you and your unique friend finally meet, you cling together in jolly reunion, by no means to be parted again. The pleased kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but by no means absent from your heart.
Then you thwart Rainbow Bridge together….
yes its normal….im so sorry for ur dog….condolesence…from me to u sorry for the incorrect spelling of condolensence
You shouldn’t feel guilty at all. Sometimes these things happen – especially if it’s an internal tumour.
Only a vet can see some things within our pets, even when we reckon we know our animals surrounded by out. Really, don’t feel guilty. Unfortunately this is surprisingly common. Dogs are extremely excellent at hiding their pain and it doesn’t surprise me at all that he was like this.
My boy was 14 when he died, and managed to hide his pain until my mum realised he couldn’t eat properly because of a quick growing tumour in his mouth. He always had regular check ups and at his last one was told that he was doing fantastically well for being what would be considered as a veteran Berner – he had a heart with the health of a two year ancient dog’s and except for arthritis there was nothing obviously incorrect with him.
It’s dreadful and when we lose something we like we do involuntarily blame ourselves, but I don’t blame you. Your dog had had vet checkups, was visibly loved and lived a long and pleased life. I’m very sorry to hear about this – Fox Terriers are lovely dogs and I know just how dreadful it is to lose an animal you’ve had for so long.
Drop me a message if you need a sympathetic ear.
xx
hi,i know how you feel ,you should not feel guilty ,you maybe feeling hurt,it is the doctors fault for finding nothing incorrect with the dog,the vet doctor is the one that should feel guilty.
I reckon it would be normal to feel some guilt, but at the same time it’s just one of those things that happen, not in any way your fault. When there aren’t symptoms then there is no way to know that something is incorrect. It can happen with people even, my father-in-law died of brain tumors because by the time symptoms appeared it was too late and the cancer had spread too much. There is no one to blame, it’s just something that happens.
I’m sorry for the loss of your dog. I can only imagine the pain you must feel.
I do not know if you will feel any better, but due to your pups advancing age, the vet may not have treated him, even if their was a diagnosis.
Although, they would have provided “comfort” measures, such as pain relief or intravenous nutrition. It sounds as though he was not very uncomfortable and kept his appetite, so he probably went along scenery’s course.
He just had to go on…in his own way, without unnecessary human intervention. Try to know.